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  • https://www.facebook.com/sharer/sharer.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.exeterexpressandecho.co.uk%2FExeter-judge-slams-8216-hysterical-8217-reaction%2Fstory-21311546-detail%2Fstory.html%23gxBMC3QqYLHAB5IH.01
  • In conclusion to the horror of the last almost four years of my life and the lives of all my children. To all those that had any doubt, all those that actually believed that i was capable of such terrible things, to all those who without saying one word to me cut me and my older children out and cast us aside. To all those who (despicably) hide in their "Christianity" standing in judgment and condemnation without hearing or knowing or even wanting to know the truth. To all those who through a pretence of "love" hurt my children through their complicit conspiring. Not one person, some of whom i have known for more than 20 years ever said a word to me, nor sought the truth. Being satisfied that i was this "demon" and still to this day stay hidden after their collusion, gossip and reprehensible behaviour. Even now preferring to think there must have been some truth, some sense that i was at least in part guilty of some crime.... shame on you. Shame on you for standing by while my children were torn apart, shame on you that you stood by while my children were used as pawns and weapons against me and each other. That some of you had the gall to say one word of negativity without ever attempting to find the truth. Utterly exonerated.... no question mark, no doubt. From a judge that has been criticised for his sympathy towards mothers and his stance against fathers. His words will live with me forever. Four sets of barristers, four sets of solicitors and social services after reading thousands of pages of material concluded and echoed the judges comments. I did not win my children back because i had clever solicitors !!!! It was because the truth was so completely obvious....its just no one wanted to listen, Preferring the lie to the truth. To this day despite everything....despite caring for my kids, giving myself and my life to being there for my children, there are still those that prefer to believe the lie. My kids are now well on their way to being fully engaged in their lives, doing excellently at school and moving forward. One lesson can be drawn.... dont judge lest ye be judged.... Exeter judge slams ‘hysterical’ reaction to abuse claims By Exeter Express and Echo | Posted: July 01, 2014 Exeter Crown Court Teachers and specialists who help domestic violence victims “accepted without question” abuse allegations a woman made against her former partner, a family court judge has said. Unnecessary safeguards were put in place at schools and children got caught up in an “hysterical and paranoiac” atmosphere, said Judge David Tyzack. School staff would almost certainly have realised that the man presented no risk had anyone “bothered” to contact him, said the judge. The judge said the case showed that it was essential for professionals to keep an open mind and realise that allegations were not proved simply because someone made them. He made his comments in a written ruling on the case following a hearing in a county court in Exeter, Devon. Judge Tyzack said the case centred on a 14-year-old boy and a girl aged 11. He said he had been asked to decide whether allegations their mother had made against their father were true. He did not identify anyone involved but said the local authority with responsibility for the children’s welfare was Devon County Council. Judge Tyzack said the man and woman had five children in total and had been together for more than 20 years. The judge said the case related to the welfare and futures of two of those five children. He said he had found all the mother’s allegations to be “completely untrue”. “The allegations made by the mother are, without needing to go into all of the details, that the father physically, sexually and emotionally abused her during their 23-year relationship, during most of which they were married,” said Judge Tyzack. “She also alleges that, as each of their five children were born, he similarly abused them. “No allegations of any kind were made by the mother, for example to the police or social services, prior to the separation... “However, after the separation the mother sought help from agencies that specialise in helping and advising people, mostly women, who are the victims of domestic violence. “These included the Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services and the Domestic Violence and Abuse Service. “Both organisations of course do invaluable work in the context of assisting children and vulnerable people, but it has been a consistent feature of the evidence that this court has heard that certain professionals working in those agencies habitually accepted, without question, the allegations made against this father by the mother. “They invariably accepted what she told them, uncritically and without any attempt to examine or investigate the other side of the coin. “Exactly the same applies to teachers at schools attended by (the two children). “Safeguarding procedures were put in place at their schools which were completely unnecessary. “Had anyone from the children’s schools bothered to contact the father, they would have almost certainly realised that he presented no risk or danger, but inevitably the children were caught up in this hysterical and paranoiac atmosphere. “There is a very real danger, in my judgment, of professionals treating the alleged victim’s allegations as completely truthful and the alleged perpetrator as a sort of pariah. “All the allegations made by the mother in this case have been found to be completely untrue.” Judge Tyzack said the woman had suffered from ‘‘mental ill-health‘’ and had influenced some of the children. He said the children had been “seriously damaged”. “It is essential at all times for professionals to keep an open mind. Allegations of domestic violence are not proved simply by a person, however seemingly credible, making an allegation or indeed several allegations,” said the judge. “Professionals need to be vigilant in dealing with an alleged victim of domestic violence to ascertain whether he or she is suffering from mental ill-health.” He went on: “This court regards domestic violence, when proved, as being of the utmost seriousness. Often it involves the exploitation of the vulnerable by a dominant person. Often, when proved, it amounts to criminal behaviour. It causes massive distress, often injury, and when children are involved they too often suffer horrible abuse. “Nothing that I have said... in any way diminishes the seriousness of this kind of behaviour and the court’s attitude to it. However, it is almost as serious, in my judgment, for a person to invent allegations of domestic violence and still worse for a parent to influence children that abuse has occurred when it has not... “That is what I have found has happened in this case. The children involved have been so caught up in the toxic combination of the mother’s false allegations, her hysterical reaction to the father and her mental ill-health that the children have been completely estranged from their father. It is going to require very skilled work to heal and restore.” Read more: http://www.exeterexpressandecho.co.uk/Exeter-judge-slams-8216-hysterical-8217-reaction/story-21311546-detail/story.html#Yo0Xx2404TxpAVoj.01#ixzz3T3GZC5ob Follow us: @expressandecho on Twitter | expressecho on Facebook

    Teachers and specialists who help domestic violence victims 'accepted without question' abuse allegations a woman made against her former partner, a family court judge has said. Unnecessary safeguards...
    exeterexpressandecho.co.ukTeachers and specialists who help domestic violence victims 'accepted without question' abuse allegations a woman made against her former partner, a family court judge has said. Unnecessary safeguards...

    2015-02-28T14:55:44+0000
  • New FNF article in Divorce Magazine - tips for parents starting to have difficulties with seeing their children after separation: http://www.thedivorcemagazine.co.uk/trouble-seeing-your-children/

    Trouble seeing your children after divorce? Child access and child visitation article by Families need Fathers. Coping with divorce and Joint custody
    thedivorcemagazine.co.ukTrouble seeing your children after divorce? Child access and child visitation article by Families need Fathers. Coping with divorce and Joint custody

    2015-02-27T09:35:00+0000
  • may be this is where i can find some solace, been separated from my kids for 6 months now and i'm finding it very hard being away from them.just miss being with them full time especially when they need me to comfort them when they are not well. sometimes i think why have kids when you can't enjoy them,but i love them to bits. why are a lot of the women so selfish once they get what they want the kids they just rid of their dads, saddens me.my little one are 4 and 2
  • Has anyone been involved with NYAS. If so what has been your experience
  • Finding handovers for contact difficult? These tips can help to make the process a little easier: http://goo.gl/qarUwj
  • Can you help with a survey on attitudes to prenatal genetic testing? More details here: http://goo.gl/J0UKe5
    2015-02-23T10:54:57+0000
  • More details about yesterday's announcement on DNA testing: http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed143220

    DNA tests in family courts will be provided across England from later this year, Justice Minister Simon Hughes has announced. From September all family court judges in England will be able to order DNA tests to determine a child's parentage.This follows two pilot schemes in Taunton and Bristol which…
    familylawweek.co.ukDNA tests in family courts will be provided across England from later this year, Justice Minister Simon Hughes has announced. From September all family court judges in England will be able to order DNA tests to determine a child's parentage.This follows two pilot schemes in Taunton and Bristol which…

    2015-02-18T09:23:51+0000
  • On our own where tough but together where invincible https://www.facebook.com/Father.that.care
    2015-02-18T01:18:40+0000
  • Government plans for court ordered DNA testing are a positive move for dads in cases where paternity is being denied by the other parent - FNF comment: http://www.fnf.org.uk/news-events-2/press-releases

    Families Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.
    fnf.org.ukFamilies Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.

    2015-02-17T11:37:29+0000
  • Family courts to be able to order and fund DNA testing where paternity is disputed from September: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-31492078

    Family court judges in England will be able to order DNA tests to determine a child's parentage from September, Justice Minister Simon Hughes announces.
    bbc.co.ukFamily court judges in England will be able to order DNA tests to determine a child's parentage from September, Justice Minister Simon Hughes announces.

    2015-02-17T11:34:14+0000
  • This week's quiz. Do You Know Your Shared Residence? Just 10 questions. http://gotoquiz.com/PjHIv #familylaw

    The following quiz is for lay advisers and charity staff helping parents and children to make post-separation child arrangements. Only 10 questions to test your knowledge on shared residence/shared living arrangements.
    gotoquiz.comThe following quiz is for lay advisers and charity staff helping parents and children to make post-separation child arrangements. Only 10 questions to test your knowledge on shared residence/shared living arrangements.

    2015-02-09T12:42:06+0000
  • ***I URGENTLY NEED GOOD SOLICITOR & BARRISTER *** enyone with good experience and name of solicitor & Barrister from LONDON & KENT ? Thanks
  • I'm looking for advise from fathers that who have successfully got their 'foreign' children back to the UK! I am a UK citizen in Belgium, so it is not possible to represent myself in court!.. The costs are mounting up and although i have an extremely strong case to get my son to the UK, things are just not moving fast enough! Does anybody have advice?.. I have spoken to reunite.org, but there is little that they can do.. Are their any funds out there available to me, some person or organisation willing to help me with the legal costs?
  • Do you know your family law? http://www.thecustodyminefield.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/do-you-know-your-family-law-answers-and.html

    Community Newswire: 'Courts urged to replace guiding case in child custody cases'Cumberland News: 'Legal Boost for Brampton man's parent's rights campaign'Family Law Week: 'Mr Justice Mostyn calls for review of Poel and Payne'.McKenzie Magazine: 'Campaigning Successes x 2: Kids in the Middle and Bey…
    thecustodyminefield.blogspot.comCommunity Newswire: 'Courts urged to replace guiding case in child custody cases'Cumberland News: 'Legal Boost for Brampton man's parent's rights campaign'Family Law Week: 'Mr Justice Mostyn calls for review of Poel and Payne'.McKenzie Magazine: 'Campaigning Successes x 2: Kids in the Middle and Bey…

    2015-02-03T14:00:38+0000
  • whats the point of this or any other organisation. all very well you that you know what goes on but you cant do anything about.. IT THE M.P THAT SHOULD DO SAMTHING! MY SON HAS SAID TO THE C S A..THAT HE WILL STOP ALL PAYMENTS TO HER MUM ,UNTILL HE GET TO SEE HIS DAUGTHER. THE REPLY TO THIS WAS, THEN YOUR GO TO PRISON, ALSO IF YOUR NOT SEEING YOU DAUGHTER THEN YOU NEED TO PAY MORE(HE PAYS 260 POUNDS A MONTH. PLUS HE HAS A WIFE AND KIDS. WHEN HE GOT UPSET AND SAID HE MIGHT AS WELL JUST GIVE UP AND TOP HIMSELF, THE C S A SAID THEN WE HAVE TO TELL THE POLICE FOR YOUR SAFE.... what about his daugthers well bing ?(mind)_ SO Sameone please,please,please help my son.
  • Looking for guidance or support about seeing your children after separation? Find details for local meetings in February here: http://www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

    Families Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.
    fnf.org.ukFamilies Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.

    2015-02-02T15:14:40+0000
  • Without the help from fnf I really don't know where we would be today myself grandma and my son. I obtained a wealth of information which helped beyond my expectations where after a gruelling 12 months attending court we successfully gained custody of my now 5 year old granddaughter. Thank you thank you families need fathers :)
  • Our January newsletter is now online, including updated guidance on McKenzie Friends that can also be very useful for litigants-in-person: http://goo.gl/3ubyN0

    Families Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.
    fnf.org.ukFamilies Need Fathers (FNF) is a registered UK charity, founded in 1974. It provides information and support to parents, including unmarried parents, of either sex.

    2015-01-30T14:17:05+0000
  • How are children's 'wishes and feelings' obtained in family law cases? An independent social worker explains the process: http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed137159

    Paul Bishop, an independent social worker and formerly a Children’s Guardian, draws on 20 years’ experience of interviewing children involved in family proceedings.
    familylawweek.co.ukPaul Bishop, an independent social worker and formerly a Children’s Guardian, draws on 20 years’ experience of interviewing children involved in family proceedings.

    2015-01-29T11:40:49+0000

FNF_Media Interesting article in the Telegraph today about parental alienation: http://t.co/57EUlA5pi9
FNF_Media RT @TCMFamilyLaw: New Case Law: Successful appeal against order for no contact. https://t.co/t7PiFLUd4Q - please share - #familylaw
FNF_Media RT @DJMarjoribanks: @FNF_Media Pls RT: @Relate_charity seeking separated parents for survey to inform service, WIN an iPad Air 2! https://t…
FNF_Media RT @fest4westham: "When I'm older, I want to be like you dad" 6yr old's priceless words during school run. #fatherhood #DadAndSon @FNF_Medi
FNF_Media RT @ullainoxford: @FNF_Media Pls RT? Oxford Uni seeking fathers to share past experiences of disabled/chronically ill child with flu http:/…
FNF_Media What to do if you are having trouble seeing your children: http://t.co/hGqHdIe8Fa @thedivorcemag
FNF_Media Need guidance or support about seeing your children after separation? Find details for our February meetings here: http://t.co/iJ1dLi317x
FNF_Media RT @dad_info: Some wonderful comments from @bryony_gordon in todays @Telegraph regarding Shared Parental Leave & 'hands-on dads' http://t.…
FNF_Media RT @drsue2014: 2014 reflections: delighted to talk about research @FNF_Media Newcastle branch meeting - so warm and welcoming
FNF_Media RT @Brynley_H: Been there with this & failed dismally, as my family can testify. Sound advice for parents from @FNF_Media could help http:/…
FNF_Media RT @kerrykeane101: @FNF_Media please sign and retweet to Save Liverpool Children's Centres http://t.co/TkNYRFlsjK
FNF_Media @ullainoxford No problem, happy to!
FNF_Media Can you help with a survey on attitudes to prenatal genetic testing? More details here: http://t.co/QKbLaThoTw
FNF_Media RT @atkinsondavid: And catch my @TelegraphMen story from Xmas week via RT from @FNF_Media: http://t.co/vtzpTliSec > Share your view
FNF_Media Need guidance or support about seeing your children after separation? Find details for our January meetings here: http://t.co/iJ1dLi317x
FNF_Media Our January newsletter is now online! http://t.co/emnodMG1xn
FNF_Media Finding handovers for contact difficult? These tips can help to make the process a little easier: http://t.co/gtS7sJdItt
FNF_Media Government plans for court ordered DNA testing are a positive move - FNF comment: http://t.co/v6cgPpv2XH
FNF_Media @kathringerling @DrPDickinson Absolutely, parents should always put the children's interest first and work together whenever possible.
FNF_Media RT @SarahHelplines: Good to meet @questgaycath @mindcharity and @fnf_media to talk the Helplines Standard today - great discussion re: conf…

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